The Bridesmaid Dress Debate

There are endless articles covering the negative side of buying bridesmaid dresses from China and from websites where designer copies are made for a fraction of the price.

So what do you do when you are on a budget and the average bridesmaid dress retails around the £200 mark?

I would like to make clear that I do not agree with people coping designers work and passing it off as a genuine piece and I also think that designer copies are disrespectful to the craftsmanship, skill and attention to detail that goes into each designer gown.

Everyday sites are shut down and brides are left out of pocket with alteration fee's to try and make the best out of what they have purchased or in the worst cases having to buy new dresses meaning they are paying full price plus the cost of the wasted dresses.

So what are the other options?

There are high street shops that sell a fantastic selection of bridesmaids dresses. 

Here is a selection from BHS Their dresses range from £36 for children up to around £120 for adults.

It is also a good idea to keep an eye out for bridal sample sales especially if you only have 1 or 2 bridesmaids.

When I was looking for dresses I kept getting tempted by sights such as 'lightinthebox' but was also scared off by reviews stating escalating postage costs and poorly fitting dresses. I ended up researching dress makers that rather than selling designer copies sold a small selection of there own bridesmaids dresses. I came across a business called 'littlepridebride' on ebay. All of the reviews were positive and I was able to both speak to the lady that fronted the business via telephone and frequent email conversation. 

The amount of communication and help I received put my mind at ease and I felt completely confident processing my order. 

The Order for 6 Bridesmaids dresses took around 5 weeks from start to finish. I was really happy with the quality and how the dresses looked. They had a heavy weight to them and were beautifully lined. There wasn't a wonky seam in sight. I also didn't have to worry about escalating postage costs as they were shipped to the UK office before being sent to me. My dresses averages out at £45 per dress.  

Here are the photo's of my Bridesmaids in their dresses.

Picture taken by Alex Lawrence Photography
http://alexlawrencephotography.com/

Here are some tips for if you're looking to buy your dresses online.

1) Do your research! review, review, review. 

2) Measure three times

3) Match your measurements to the nearest dress size rather than buying custom dresses. This will make them easier to alter. The only thing that I customised was the length for the taller ladies.

4) Factor in alteration costs 

5) If you have any doubts or niggles then DO NOT ORDER!

Decoration - To buy or to hire?

In the last few posts we have talked about where to buy wedding decoration and looking at the DIY options and if it's better to buy or to hire.
In this post I will go through how I decorated our hall and how much I spent on creating the final look. 

here's a few of my lovely helpers that made my vision a reality:)

We hired Chalton Village Hall for our wedding reception. Village Halls tend to be quite reasonable and cost as little as £15 per hour. Due to the low cost we decided to hire the hall the day before the wedding to give us plenty of time to make everything perfect.

I chose to purchase most of the decoration and hired just the tables and the wine coolers.

I really enjoyed setting up the hall the day before the wedding. It was fun seeing it all come together and I got to spend time and build memories with family and friends. I also have a lot of respect for the people that do this for a profession. 

I feel that picking a venue where I had to plan and organise every detail was both the most brave and refreshing thing that I could have done. The venue dictated the theme which was in-keeping with my original ideas. I started looking for inspiration and shopping around for key pieces around a year before the wedding. I had no idea whether I wanted to hire a decoration company or do it alone. I had never planned a wedding or even a party before so this was a new experience for me. 

I knew how many guests we were having which helped me to be able to plan how many tables we needed and how best to position them. We had 100 gusts and our hall was fairly small. We went for two long rows of trestle tables to allow clean lines and clear walking routes.

I now had the template to draw out my table plan inspiration. I knew I wanted vintage birdcages and that's where I started my research and found these...

I came across them in B&M and they only cost £2.97 each. To decorate them I used ribbon and Hessian string £1 each from Tiger and paper roses hand crafted in Thailand £1.85 for 50 eBay. I sold 12 of the 15 centrepieces for the same price as I paid. The remaining cages went into my memory box.

the most costly and time consuming item to purchase were the chair covers. I wanted Ivory cotton covers which worked out around £2-£3 each to hire. After lots of bidding and just missing out, I purchased 165 covers for £175 and went on to sell them for the same price! But be warned laundering 165 chair covers is a time consuming job and does add to the cost.

I managed to purchase 18 tablecloths for £46 which works out £2.55 per table cloth, which is half the price of the average selling price. I sold these for the same price.

I purchased my chair sashes from a higher company for £45 for 115 sashes. I then sold these for £35.

As you can see I saved quite a lot of money from buying and selling on. the preparation and set did take a lot of time, so do make sure you consider that when booking your hall and planning your final few days before your wedding. 

Here is the breakdown of my costs 
Chair covers        £175
Chair sashes        £45
Tablecloths         £46
Centre pieces       £50
Large Centre pieces £22
Burgundy Napkins    £40

Table hire          £57
Wine cooler hire    £9.50             Total amount £444.50 

Money from selling on items  £336.00 

The total spent on wedding decoration came to £108.50 

The hire company that I used and would highly recommend were Jaspers Luton. 

    


  

I'm back!!

I have been off of the wedding scene for quite a while! Wedding planning quickly fills your time and when you are creating a lot of it yourself every second is precious.

I am so happy to be back and sharing my experience through my blog, Instagram and pinterest (I feel like I have been away so long that the websites I have listed have probably been replaced with new ones) It's nice being able to write this blog knowing  the end result. We had an amazing wedding day and I have met amazing suppliers, super creative people and had lots of support and time from my family and friends. I can share real photos and real experiences. 

I can write about every decision, my doubts and worries (more about the bridesmaids dresses and marquee decisions than becoming a married lady)last minute decisions, the days running up to the big day and the days after. 

If you would like any help and guidance along the way then please email me the-wedding-assistant@outlook.com

I will hopefully also be getting out and about and taking a look at affordable wedding venues and meeting with wedding suppliers. If you are in the wedding sector and would like me to run a page on you then I would love to hear from you.

Now to get writing!!! 

Have a great day 

The Wedding Assistant 

 

Task 4 - Theme and Decoration Ideas - planing your layout

If you are anything like me as soon as you have selected your venue your mind will go into a creative whirlwind and you will become full of ideas on how to make your empty hall into your dream venue.

In this blog post I am going to share my shopping secrets, take a look at a few different themes and show you how fun and easy it is to DIY.

So Lets start with the Theme 
There are a few things that you need to consider to help you decide on a theme including, what your venue looks like, what season you are getting married in, and the colour scheme you are looking to use.
You may find that your venue dictates your theme fully and already gives you a strong back drop.






















Here's our venue. We were very lucky as we wanted a rustic / vintage style wedding with a colour scheme of Burgundy and Gold. We could not believe our luck when we turned up and saw all off the rustic beams and burgundy finishings.

There are lots of different themes to choose from and once you have picked your theme then that's where the fun starts...

Rustic / vintage / modern / Alice in Wonderland / casino / London / Paris / Las Vegas / music / comic book / Christmas / Easter / Halloween / Spring / Autumn / rainbow / nautical / beach / summer fete / garden party / travel / colour / seaside / art deco / books, library / film, cinema / fairytale /  the list goes on. 


So Where do you start?
We went to the venue with a list of questions. As we were planning a full DIY wedding we had to make sure we were 100% clear of what we were allowed to do. We made sure we made lots of notes to refer back to.
Our questions and notes included;
What is included in the price of the venue?
Are there tables and chairs that can be used?
Chair / table dimensions / Quantities 
access times / hall availability
hall dimensions. 
Power points / music systems / fire escapes
decorative areas (fire places)
Facilities available
Outside space
car parking 

Make sure you take the time to fully look around the venue and take lots of photos. Take photo's from each angle of the venue and any features. For example at the end of our hall there is a nice wooden fire place and above that there are two hooks - so we will be making the most out of these by decorating the fire place with jugs full of flowers and hanging banners or bunting off of the hooks.

Once you have all of your measurements you can sit down and work out a hall plan. The first thing to consider is the size of the hall and how many people you want to have seated.
Our hall is on the smaller side and we are going to have 100 people seated for the meal. I found the diagram below really useful on helping to decide the style of tables to use and the final lay out.   

A good tip that my mum gave me was to draw out everything to scale onto graph paper so you can make sure everything will all fit exactly how you want. 

Remember to work out where you would like other key areas - Welcome Drinks / DJ / Bar / Cake table / card table..

We decided to go for a top table running in front of the feature fireplace followed by two long rows. This allows us to fit in the required number of guests with plenty of room for everyone to walk around with ease. We have a corner for the DJ and a large alcove for the bar.

I really like the set up of this hall. I think long tables work really well. Pinterest is fab when creating inspiration for different layouts and set ups.

I also like the mixture of long and round tables that are used in the picture on the right. All pictures show strong ways to make the most of your space.

As we have a smaller sized hall we want to make the most of the outside space. We are lucky enough to have a large lawn area surrounding the venue. We have decided to have either a marquee or laced gazebos depending on the weather and create both a seating area made from hay stacks and a lawn games area for the children to play. This will allow us to create a larger feeling venue and really maximise all of the space. 

Remember to look at your venue as a whole and not just a single room.

Once you have a list of ideas of the theme and colours that you would like to go for and you have set the layout of the hall you can then start to get Creative.

You will need to research the following areas

Centre pieces

Tables / table linen 

Chairs / Chair linen

Extra table decorations (wine coolers / jugs)

Place settings

Favours 

Feature area decorations (fireplaces / hooks / beams)

Cake stand 

cake knife

sashes / bows / swags

signs  

candles / lighting (inside and out)

Outside decoration

I know I keep on saying it but to help me generate ideas and channel my creativity I spent a lot of time on Pinterest and google images. You can search for anything on there and so much inspiration and ideas come up that it really helps you to perfect exactly what you want.

Popular searches that I used 

Rustic wedding 

Barn wedding 

Vintage centre pieces 

Long table decoration 

Burgundy Wedding 

Village hall wedding decoration 

Fireplace displays for weddings

Wedding signs 

outside wedding ideas 

I created a board displaying my likes so that I could collate them in one place. From this I then drew out table plans and decoration ideas to visualise exactly how everything would look.

From this you can then Write your Shopping list 

In my next post I will show you my purchases and the best places to pick up key items. This part has been such a fantastic experience and I wish I could keep doing it. I have made surprise purchases from shops that I would not of even planned to go in and sourced and researched items from the internet. I have made things and love the DIY touches that I have added. I cant wait to share them with you all.

If you have found a real gem then please share your findings below. 

And don't forget to hit the follow button :) 

Have a nice day 

The Wedding Assistant